What is Orgasmic Meditation, you ask? According to OneTaste.us,
"Orgasmic Meditation (OM) is a practice in which one partner gently strokes the other partner’s clitoris for 15 minutes.
OM consists of a defined sequences of steps, and is a goalless practice – the only job for both partners is to feel.
It’s deliberate and structured with repeatable results. It’s a meditation, equally powerful for both partners – only the object of focus is the clitoris.
Practitioners experience benefits similar to other mindfulness practices such as sitting meditation, as well as the well-known health benefits associated with orgasm.
It’s profound, yet simple and you can have it whether you are single or coupled."
For me, Orgasmic Meditation has been about letting go. Letting go of my false beliefs about myself and others, letting go of my fear of being vulnerable with my partner, and letting go of my shame around my sex, my body, and my vagina.
OM has been like a fuel source, or like a place that I can keep coming back to for connection and energy. I have become more turned on to life, more confident, and less anxious.
Now that I am pregnant, OM has given me so many other benefits that I didn't expect. The same is true for other women who have OMed during pregnancy, as well as mothers who practice OM.
For me, OM has:
-Decreased my nausea during my first trimester
-Remedied my cramping that I had in my first trimester
-Kept my libido high (if not higher)
-Kept me emotionally and sexually connected to my partner
-Given me energy when I might have otherwise had none
Since becoming pregnant and experiencing the benefits it has for me, I want to bring this practice to pregnant women. This experience has also pushed me to research the benefits of sensual and "orgasmic" birth, if you will. I put orgasmic is quotes because it isn't about having an orgasm. Although, it could happen, it isn't the goal. The conclusion I have come to is that having a sensual birth is not only beneficial, but it could be an essential component missing from the mainstream childbirth approach. Why is that? I have often heard pioneer midwife, Ina May Gaskin, say that the same energy that got the baby in there is what helps get the baby out. She recommends lots of touch, kissing, nipple stimulation, and other forms of affection during childbirth. Which makes sense as these things stimulate uterine contractions as well as releases oxytocin, the feel good hormone that is released during an orgasm. It only made sense to me and my partner to plan for a sensual birth as well. I know you can't always predict how your birth will go, but our plan is to OM during labor, as well as kiss and touch and rub a lot.
This might make some women uncomfortable, and that is why I think OM is a good place to start. The structure and container has it be that she can feel safe knowing that it will end in 15 minutes, and the couple can build from there.
Do you want to maintain a connection to your partner during pregnancy and after the baby arrives?
Do you want to maintain a healthy and abundant sexual relationship with your partner during and post pregnancy?
Do you want to feel energized and confident and alive during your pregnancy and post baby?
We all know they story. Woman meets man. It's hot... for a while. Then woman gets pregnant. Woman becomes disinterested in sex. Man becomes resentful. Woman feels depleted after new baby. The cycle goes on.
I truly believe it doesn't have to be this way, and I believe OM and sensual birthing along with helpful tools for communicating is a gateway to a better reality.
Just recently I finished a 10 month coaching program that trained me to work with couples and singles (yes, single mamas can have it, too), and train people how to practice Orgasmic Meditation. If this is something that sounds interesting to you, contact me for more details.
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